The second major component of the first is used around what Covey calls the "circle of influence." While this is a pretty basic concept, which will probably be the biggest influence on his behavior as it did mine.
The problem I have so early in my "Strive for leadership" is to decide where I turn first, does not seem so much I need to learn and so many tools or habits I need to focus on that I simply do not have time to to all. How is it like this when you want to lead? You want to start making a difference and feel like a leader who have some sort of obligation to do so. This habit helps you directly.
Sphere of influence (COI)
The idea is that everyone has a limit to their influence. Things on which we have no influence, are out of this circle. This recognizes that there are things on which we have no influence. Sounds easy! What's for breakfast, which book to read? As for global warming, or local tax rates?
Circle of Concern (COC)
Covey also talks of a "circle of concern." This circle includes all the things that concern us greatly. This tends to be easier. However, it can require us to these concerns. There is a basic premise that you may just be worried about a few things. For some of us this is difficult. The point really is and 'more' concerned. I find that this worked for me on several levels - at work, at home and in person. I still have this even if I only could have three general questions about each of these levels and had to accept that there were some things that I was not worried as I felt I should be. This is passion, and while it is a whole other topic I had to question what I was most passionate about. This definitely helped me in this process.
The lesson is in equilibrium and where we spend our time and effort.
My experience is that my COI and COC are smaller and I initially thought that the assessment of both is interrelated.
I was distracted by problems I've had some, but not much influence. My level of concern has become the engine to try to justify a certain influence. What confused me was the real and the end.
The main question is, why spend time and energy on things outside of our circle of influence, even if they are within our circle of concern? It was just a waste of energy. Now, this scenario is not necessarily unhealthy. There are many things about me that are beyond my influence. I think you have to do is accept what I can impact, and if I am quite concerned, working to expand my circle of influence so that they can make a difference. This is an objective and where the real lesson of this is. We decide for ourselves what we are concerned, but we often hear that our circle of influence is dictated to us. This is simply untrue.
What if I spent my energy trying to impact what I was worried, even if I had any influence? Working out of my influence I am doing nothing but further controlled by the concerns that I can do little. Covey says that if you spend energy on things outside your influence, the circle starts to shrink. The opposite is the key.
I was in a group where productivity is low and not improving. The leader has become a dictatorship in the belief that it was within its COI. All this did was to reduce its influence as the people off even more. In a position almost identical to another group, the recognized leader and its degree of influence that he could not simply dictate a better productivity. Instead he worked, where I had the flu, and some reports support that enables you to what people saw as building blocks for their work. WITH extended its people began to understand his COC.
Putting our energy into things within our circle of influence will begin to expand. This is if there is something you want to change, you can also start where you can make a difference. How often is the only thing they have influence, your own reaction? Thinking back to Part 1 of the first habit .... To be proactive is to choose how to respond. To choose to work within your circle of influence is clearly a good answer.
Stocks
One of the best parts of this book is turning theory into action. At the end of each chapter, Covey provides a range of very practical and achievable actions to help us achieve what we have learned in the previous chapter. The only major that I'm working on is the last: proactive - the test for thirty days you really need to read the book for this, but the first three points are:
1. Work only in your circle of influence
2. Commitments with only small
3. Look at yourself without judging
I found this particularly hard in my current situation. How do I go, I'm finding out more about what is inside my COI. What is saving me is to have someone help me with the part of observation. We come together at the end of each week and I'm going with what I did I thought I was on my COI. My coach (someone who I chose as a coach!) Would then observe and comment on where they saw these activities falling. The best part was then what we think of the impact on my COI was. Initially it was very little, but as the weeks have progressed we noticed changes in both of which I am working in
I urge you to try this. There is no down side and I'm finding a lot of power experience. I said that I have chosen a coach. I found this to be vital. My head is full of stuff too much to be sufficiently objective. Choosing a coach is an important decision, and a full subject in itself.
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My experience is that my COI and COC are smaller and I initially thought that the assessment of both is interrelated.
I was distracted by problems I've had some, but not much influence. My level of concern has become the engine to try to justify a certain influence. What confused me was the real and the end.
The main question is, why spend time and energy on things outside of our circle of influence, even if they are within our circle of concern? It was just a waste of energy. Now, this scenario is not necessarily unhealthy. There are many things about me that are beyond my influence. I think you have to do is accept what I can impact, and if I am quite concerned, working to expand my circle of influence so that they can make a difference. This is an objective and where the real lesson of this is. We decide for ourselves what we are concerned, but we often hear that our circle of influence is dictated to us. This is simply untrue.
What if I spent my energy trying to impact what I was worried, even if I had any influence? Working out of my influence I am doing nothing but further controlled by the concerns that I can do little. Covey says that if you spend energy on things outside your influence, the circle starts to shrink. The opposite is the key.
I was in a group where productivity is low and not improving. The leader has become a dictatorship in the belief that it was within its COI. All this did was to reduce its influence as the people off even more. In a position almost identical to another group, the recognized leader and its degree of influence that he could not simply dictate a better productivity. Instead he worked, where I had the flu, and some reports support that enables you to what people saw as building blocks for their work. WITH extended its people began to understand his COC.
Putting our energy into things within our circle of influence will begin to expand. This is if there is something you want to change, you can also start where you can make a difference. How often is the only thing they have influence, your own reaction? Thinking back to Part 1 of the first habit .... To be proactive is to choose how to respond. To choose to work within your circle of influence is clearly a good answer.
Stocks
One of the best parts of this book is turning theory into action. At the end of each chapter, Covey provides a range of very practical and achievable actions to help us achieve what we have learned in the previous chapter. The only major that I'm working on is the last: proactive - the test for thirty days you really need to read the book for this, but the first three points are:
1. Work only in your circle of influence
2. Commitments with only small
3. Look at yourself without judging
I found this particularly hard in my current situation. How do I go, I'm finding out more about what is inside my COI. What is saving me is to have someone help me with the part of observation. We come together at the end of each week and I'm going with what I did I thought I was on my COI. My coach (someone who I chose as a coach!) Would then observe and comment on where they saw these activities falling. The best part was then what we think of the impact on my COI was. Initially it was very little, but as the weeks have progressed we noticed changes in both of which I am working in
I urge you to try this. There is no down side and I'm finding a lot of power experience. I said that I have chosen a coach. I found this to be vital. My head is full of stuff too much to be sufficiently objective. Choosing a coach is an important decision, and a full subject in itself.